I never had sex with a vagina. There were always big chunks of "woman" built around it I interacted with.
The first was a whole head taller than me and her Yoni had a "loose" feeling, although we both started out as virgins. My current lover has had two children and as a former prostitute dozens of hundreds of men, and she feels "tight".
To me, Sex is a holistic experience, not reduced to some pieces of filet rubbing each other. People regarding each other as objects and judging them by their features miss out on a lot of deep joy and satisfaction. In my opinion this is a symptom of our culture of objectivism and rejecting responsibility for their own experiences.
There might be a difference between "having" sex and "making" love.
For the former, a piece of filet might suffice.