Oliver Utzt
1 min readMay 23, 2021

This article fuels my optimism. My own studies tell a different story, with most women I talked about the topic putting money in the number one spot. They’re not gold diggers, they just have a clear vision of the life they want to live, and it’s not the only quality they look for. And yes, now that I think of it, all their guys I came to know were kind. They weren’t particularly rich, but they had enough income to guarantee a certain standard of living, like a functional car, at least two holidays a year, nice clothes and being able to pay for a dinner for two. As a struggling musician, my standard of living is way beyond the standard of the women I can connect to in conversation. I know women do like me and I know my qualities, kindness being one of them, but I think a certain level of income is seen as proof of adulthood and therein lies my undateability. I prefer to believe this article, though and hope for the best.

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Oliver Utzt
Oliver Utzt

Written by Oliver Utzt

Lifelong beginner and amateur, drawing from multiple sources such as music, martial arts, spirituality, left wing ideas, psychotherapy, zen, tarot, yoga, weed

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Unfortunately you're correct. They view your wealth as security.

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I have no interest in a guy's money, I wish to make and spend my own.
I am however superficial, you do have a point there, and may go for the good looking bad guys, I'll admit to that.

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